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When: Friday, September 15, at 1pm EST (5pm GMT / 10:30pm IST)
Topic: Self-Worth and Thought Awareness
About This Week’s Chat
“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”
― Glenn Beck, American radio and television personality.
Nowadays, many of us see police or military patrols in our cities, as we visit tourist attractions or use facilities like airports and train stations. For some people, they’re an unwelcome reminder of an unseen threat. For all, they symbolize our collective awareness that, in certain circumstances, we need people who are trained and alert to keep us safe.
Over the years, I’ve come to realize that I also need two big, strong “soldiers” at the entrance and exit points of my thoughts.
I need one to keep guard over what I allow into my mind: what I see, read, listen to, and talk about. The other must watch for the harmful thoughts that slip out and threaten to ruin how I feel about myself. This sentry plays an important role in keeping my self-confidence, and even my self-worth, intact and strong.
Who Sees the Ugly Me?
I’m sure that I’m not the only person around who has “bad hair” days and “fat” days. What I’ve noticed, though, is that people around me hardly ever see the “ugly” that I do – it mostly exists in my head.
When I give such a thought the opportunity to grow, it seems to attach itself to my self-worth like a leech. Before long it starts draining me of energy and I feel as if everybody sees the “ugly me” that I see in my head. And before long I start acting as if that’s the real me. Both my performance and my relationships suffer, as this poor view of myself spills out into the workplace.
You can find out more about how poor self-worth and negative thoughts can affect your success at work when you sign up for a month’s trial of the Mind Tools Club by midnight, September 28, and download a FREE copy of our new 70-page People Skills Toolkit. (Existing members will also get the chance to receive it.)
The only thing that can change what happens “in the moment” is my conscious decision to shift my thoughts into a different gear. Instead of focusing on the negative things that I feel about myself, I have to remember that I’m still the same me that I felt so good about yesterday – even if my hair doesn’t look quite as nice as it did then!
Self-Worth and Thought Awareness
In our Twitter poll last week, 35 percent of you said that you’d like to become better at mindful self-awareness. (See how our participants voted about other aspects of self-management they’d like to improve, here.)
So, in our #MTtalk Twitter chat this Friday, we’re going to explore the relationship between self-worth and thought awareness, how it influences us, and how to become more aware of our thoughts.
You are very welcome to participate in all or some of the chat, and the following questions may spark some thoughts in preparation for it:
- What is thought awareness?
- How can you become more aware of your negative thought patterns?
- What questions can you ask yourself to help shift negative self-talk?
- How do you define self-worth?
- What does low self-worth look like? What are the signs?
- What is the effect, both personally and professionally, of low self-worth?
- What does positive self-talk sound like, and what effect does it have on your self-worth?
We’ve also compiled a list of resources for you to browse:
At Mind Tools, we hear from people all over the globe – and we hope that includes you! Join the #MTtalk chat this Friday, September 15, at 1pm EST (5pm GMT; 10:30pm IST). Remember, we feature great participant responses right here on our blog every week!
How to Join
Follow us on Twitter to make sure you don’t miss any of the action this Friday! We’ll be tweeting out 10 questions during our hour-long chat. To participate, type #MTtalk in the Twitter search function. Then, click on “All Tweets” and you’ll be able to follow the live chat feed. You can add to the discussion yourself by using the hash tag #MTtalk in your tweets.